Hi,
I am so sick of lying!
Advertisers telling the world that you need their product, musicians singing about things they don't understand or even mean. And the worst lies of all, the lies the public tell themselves.
I want to be individual, I want to just be myself.
Oh how I hate the phrase "Be Yourself" not because of what it means, but because of what it has come to mean.
When you look at it you think it says. "Be whoever you want and be honest with the world about who you are!" Yea, it doesn't mean that. It means, "Be relaxed and talk about normal things. you don't want people to think your trying too hard"
If I were to actually wander around being myself, I would be strolling down the high street wearing long black trench coats any day of the week, or listening to Bach on my iPod and telling people about Greenpeace. (Ok so I do have Bach on my iPod, I do talk about Greenpeace sometimes and I down two trench coats, but I don't make a big deal out of it.)
I wish the world would say "BE YOURSLEF" and mean it. or at least say "BE THE SAME AS EVERYONE ELSE" and not lie to us.
I consider myself a feminist for two reasons, 1) I am a free woman. (Mostly) 2) I want to stay that way. But even people who aren't feminists (aka those who think women should be owned by men) tell the truth about it. I won't broadcast the fact I am a feminist but if you asked me I would tell you the truth.
And that is how everything should be, people should be aloud to be weird. Even if people are quiet about it they should be able to tell people they are weird when they ask.
I like to think of people who consider themselves weird but try to act normal as 'closet weirdo's' the best news is that everyone is at least a bit weird, so everyone can be a closet weirdo.
But in the words of everyone who has ever had a secret, Stop Hiding!
If you believe all women are stupid, then at least come out and say it. By the same token don't blame me if women beat you up for being honest.
If you are a militant feminist, let me hear it. We need more people telling the truth, even if their truth is a load of rubbish.
Next time you see someone say, Be Yourself, do it. actually do it. don't sit around rolling your eyes and looking at that untrue ridicules phrase, laugh in their faces and be weird, be a downright freak if you want to. Do something properly silly. But do it because it is you! Do something true, please. We need more truth in the world. Next time someone says "Are you OK" give them a full report. Or when someone asks what you have been doing lately, tell them truthfully.
Be honest when you post your status on Facebook , even if you just decide not to Photoshop your new profile picture. Or not to say you have had a good day when actually only the afternoon was ok.
Please, please tell people the truth, because people lie too much, and I'm not even sure what to believe any more.
So, be weird, tell the truth and do something spontaneous.
Bye.
Tuesday, 26 August 2014
Monday, 25 August 2014
Adressing Elephants
Hi,
There is an elephant in the room when it comes to women. And I want to address it.
Yes, every month women bleed. From their wombs. (Yes I'm getting straight to the point.)
Everyone from Joan of Arc and Gloria Steinem to Katy Perry and Kate Middleton have periods.
So if everyone has them, why then is it such an elephant in the room?
Because 1) Men don't have them. 2) It's gory, and 3) People consider it too personal.
How is it personal to bleed? when a man cuts his finger does he hide it behind his back and pretend it didn't happen. No. When a woman is bleeding into her knickers she hides it though. Yes it is a bathroom thing, like poo and wee and farts. All of these are not considered conversation for polite society.
So let's all talk about periods and get everyone used to it. In Victorian times saying legs was rude, now anyone can say it. Legs, legs, legs. Talking about periods can soon join the ranks of subjects like legs and colds and being depressed. things that all have, or are, becoming easier to talk about in polite society.
Let's start with a basic explanation for those of you who don't know.
Every 20 something days a woman bleeds from her vagina. The bleeding can last from two days of light spotting and panty liners to a full week of gore. when a girl starts her periods, they aren't regular they can pop up at any moment and can last from days to months. when her periods even out it gets easier.
Some girls are in constant pain throughout there entire period, some get occasional cramps and some get away without pain at all.
But I haven't even started on being premenstrual yet.
Most people have heard of PMS (Premenstrual syndrome) and most know at least the basics of what it is.
Everyone's period's and PMS experiences are different so I will explain from my point of view:
My PMS lasts a full week. I get these symptoms:
Yes it takes some time to get used to the blood when you start your periods. Yes some girls get anaemic. but the blood, for many girls, is not the worst part.
The blood is the part that stops us wearing white jeans, but it is the tiredness that stops us roller-skating.
The symptoms of PMS are similar to the symptoms of having a period except for me the tiredness is worse.
I feel pretty much constantly exhausted when I have my period.
The other symptoms are the same as PMS plus blood loss symptoms, so you need to drink more water. Really having your period is like being ill. You have to eat and drink more healthily to keep the blood loss from effecting you, you sleep more to regain the energy being used up, and you feel like curling into a ball and lying on your bed crying for the duration of your menstrual cycle.
I feel like all my energy is being drained into my knickers.
So yes, having your period effects your life a lot. you can't just decide to go swimming, you can't do anything too tiring or exercise too extravagantly. (Well you probably could but like I said, it feels the same as being ill, and who wants to go out hiking or partying when their ill?)
So being able to talk about your period, or even get people to give you a little slack when you are menstruating would be nice. It would only be practical really. But no, women can't talk about that. Why?
Obviously the three reasons I gave you earlier, but here's what other people think:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2111037/Women-bring-menstruation-closet-say-researchers.html
Here is what some would consider the authority on this subject:
http://www.haverford.edu/psych/ddavis/p109g/steinem.menstruate.html
and men's point of view:
http://meninmenstruation.wordpress.com/2012/04/09/menstruation-through-the-eyes-of-a-typical-male/
https://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080511230757AAa2ZnA
https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100211070537AAbjU45
So having a period has a massive effect on our lives and yet we can't even discuss it. We don't even have the freedom to say, "Sorry if I wasn't on top of my game today, I was premenstrual." Or just get an extra bathroom break when we have our periods.
So don't let this elephant carry on holding us back. address the elephant and talk about your period with people, make it an accepted topic, and most of all don't be afraid to explain when it has effected your work or social life.
Bye.
There is an elephant in the room when it comes to women. And I want to address it.
Yes, every month women bleed. From their wombs. (Yes I'm getting straight to the point.)
Everyone from Joan of Arc and Gloria Steinem to Katy Perry and Kate Middleton have periods.
So if everyone has them, why then is it such an elephant in the room?
Because 1) Men don't have them. 2) It's gory, and 3) People consider it too personal.
How is it personal to bleed? when a man cuts his finger does he hide it behind his back and pretend it didn't happen. No. When a woman is bleeding into her knickers she hides it though. Yes it is a bathroom thing, like poo and wee and farts. All of these are not considered conversation for polite society.
So let's all talk about periods and get everyone used to it. In Victorian times saying legs was rude, now anyone can say it. Legs, legs, legs. Talking about periods can soon join the ranks of subjects like legs and colds and being depressed. things that all have, or are, becoming easier to talk about in polite society.
Let's start with a basic explanation for those of you who don't know.
Every 20 something days a woman bleeds from her vagina. The bleeding can last from two days of light spotting and panty liners to a full week of gore. when a girl starts her periods, they aren't regular they can pop up at any moment and can last from days to months. when her periods even out it gets easier.
Some girls are in constant pain throughout there entire period, some get occasional cramps and some get away without pain at all.
But I haven't even started on being premenstrual yet.
Most people have heard of PMS (Premenstrual syndrome) and most know at least the basics of what it is.
Everyone's period's and PMS experiences are different so I will explain from my point of view:
My PMS lasts a full week. I get these symptoms:
- Massive zits all over my face.
- Greasy hair.
- Mood swings.
- Extreme Tiredness.
- Getting irritable.
- Getting emotional.
- Craving food.
- Aching muscles.
- Sensitive boobs.
- Clumsiness.
- Slow mindedness
- Feeling dirty, like you need an extra shower.
Yes it takes some time to get used to the blood when you start your periods. Yes some girls get anaemic. but the blood, for many girls, is not the worst part.
The blood is the part that stops us wearing white jeans, but it is the tiredness that stops us roller-skating.
The symptoms of PMS are similar to the symptoms of having a period except for me the tiredness is worse.
I feel pretty much constantly exhausted when I have my period.
The other symptoms are the same as PMS plus blood loss symptoms, so you need to drink more water. Really having your period is like being ill. You have to eat and drink more healthily to keep the blood loss from effecting you, you sleep more to regain the energy being used up, and you feel like curling into a ball and lying on your bed crying for the duration of your menstrual cycle.
I feel like all my energy is being drained into my knickers.
So yes, having your period effects your life a lot. you can't just decide to go swimming, you can't do anything too tiring or exercise too extravagantly. (Well you probably could but like I said, it feels the same as being ill, and who wants to go out hiking or partying when their ill?)
So being able to talk about your period, or even get people to give you a little slack when you are menstruating would be nice. It would only be practical really. But no, women can't talk about that. Why?
Obviously the three reasons I gave you earlier, but here's what other people think:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2111037/Women-bring-menstruation-closet-say-researchers.html
Here is what some would consider the authority on this subject:
http://www.haverford.edu/psych/ddavis/p109g/steinem.menstruate.html
and men's point of view:
http://meninmenstruation.wordpress.com/2012/04/09/menstruation-through-the-eyes-of-a-typical-male/
https://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080511230757AAa2ZnA
https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100211070537AAbjU45
So having a period has a massive effect on our lives and yet we can't even discuss it. We don't even have the freedom to say, "Sorry if I wasn't on top of my game today, I was premenstrual." Or just get an extra bathroom break when we have our periods.
So don't let this elephant carry on holding us back. address the elephant and talk about your period with people, make it an accepted topic, and most of all don't be afraid to explain when it has effected your work or social life.
Bye.
Thursday, 21 August 2014
Depression, My Guide.
Hi,
Depression is a subject I have talked about before but today I would like to look at it from a different point of view.
(Warning! This post is completely opinion and point of view. The only facts are the fact that every opinion belongs to a real person. Depression is subjective. Everyone suffers in a different way, depression is a term which covers many different types of the feeling described.)
How to get out of depression.
I say 'get out of' because it really is like a black hole you need to climb from and this post will hopefully help people who have depression and those who want to understand it.
Often something meant to snap them out of it could have the opposite effect and something you were worried about might be just the thing to make them better.
Depression changes people.
Don't expect a person to be the same after a depression than they were before.
The thing that 'beats depression' could be a passing comment or a song or video. It could be anything.
You can't end someone's depression for them, they have to do it themselves.
What is it like to be depressed?
I don't think this question is asked enough. It is the most important question to ask yourself because it helps to show you how much being depressed really effects your life. the first rule to solving a problem is to understand it better.
Being depressed makes you feel, not sadness, but apathy, to everything. You feel separated from the world. it is like looking through sunglasses on a cloudy day; out of focus and dark.
Here is what other people think and feel about depression.
http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/depression.html
How does it feel to know someone with depression?
I interviewed, my Mother who knows about dealing with people who have depression.
Me: How does it feel to know someone with depression?
Mum: You worry about them, you feel helpless. It's frustrating, it's not a logical thing you know? You feel so helpless because there's nothing you can say, or do.
Me: What do you do for that person?
Mum: listen. It's difficult because there is so little you can do. Be there and support them in whatever they do that you think is positive. Try to be positive to them, try and remind them of all the good things, and how much you like, love them.
Me: what is the worst part?
Mum: seeing somebody you love suffer and not being able to do anything about it.
Me: What would you say to other people who know someone with depression?
Mum: Encourage them to get help, professional help. Try and be patient with them. And try and be enthusiastic with their recovery. Because it's when they say 'yea ok I need help' that's when they'll need you.
Me: What would you say to people with depression?
Mum: There isn't any one thing you can say to people because there are so many types of depression. don't be afraid to ask for help from your friends because they'll want to help. The most important thing is to fess up and say, 'yea I have depression' and to not be afraid to ask them for help.
Inspiration to get better.
Remember that there are colours in the world, and however much you believe that you can't handle the world, you can. We were built to be able to handle the world.
Ships can live their life in the harbour but they were built to sail the seas.
Bye.
Depression is a subject I have talked about before but today I would like to look at it from a different point of view.
(Warning! This post is completely opinion and point of view. The only facts are the fact that every opinion belongs to a real person. Depression is subjective. Everyone suffers in a different way, depression is a term which covers many different types of the feeling described.)
How to get out of depression.
I say 'get out of' because it really is like a black hole you need to climb from and this post will hopefully help people who have depression and those who want to understand it.
Often something meant to snap them out of it could have the opposite effect and something you were worried about might be just the thing to make them better.
Depression changes people.
Don't expect a person to be the same after a depression than they were before.
The thing that 'beats depression' could be a passing comment or a song or video. It could be anything.
You can't end someone's depression for them, they have to do it themselves.
What is it like to be depressed?
I don't think this question is asked enough. It is the most important question to ask yourself because it helps to show you how much being depressed really effects your life. the first rule to solving a problem is to understand it better.
Being depressed makes you feel, not sadness, but apathy, to everything. You feel separated from the world. it is like looking through sunglasses on a cloudy day; out of focus and dark.
Here is what other people think and feel about depression.
http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/depression.html
'A lot of people don't realise that depression is an illness. I don't wish it on anyone, but if they would know how it feels, I swear they would think twice before they just shrug it.' Jonathan Davis.
People often don't admit or even believe they are depressed until the last minute.
"I'm fine I'm just going through a bad patch." would be something a depressed person might say.
Being depressed makes you feel as though, instead of having a veil over your mind, the veil has been lifted and you are seeing the truth.
How does knowing you have depression make you feel?
Guilty, you feel like there should have been something you could have done to prevent this.
You feel bad that you are effecting other people around you.
you feel as if you can hide the fact you are depressed so it only effects you.
- Alone
- Useless
- Ashamed
- Ugly
- Pointless
- Aimless
- Self-conscious
- Like all of your emotions have been turned down like a volume control. All you feel is cold hard reality.
How does it feel to know someone with depression?
I interviewed, my Mother who knows about dealing with people who have depression.
Me: How does it feel to know someone with depression?
Mum: You worry about them, you feel helpless. It's frustrating, it's not a logical thing you know? You feel so helpless because there's nothing you can say, or do.
Me: What do you do for that person?
Mum: listen. It's difficult because there is so little you can do. Be there and support them in whatever they do that you think is positive. Try to be positive to them, try and remind them of all the good things, and how much you like, love them.
Me: what is the worst part?
Mum: seeing somebody you love suffer and not being able to do anything about it.
Me: What would you say to other people who know someone with depression?
Mum: Encourage them to get help, professional help. Try and be patient with them. And try and be enthusiastic with their recovery. Because it's when they say 'yea ok I need help' that's when they'll need you.
Me: What would you say to people with depression?
Mum: There isn't any one thing you can say to people because there are so many types of depression. don't be afraid to ask for help from your friends because they'll want to help. The most important thing is to fess up and say, 'yea I have depression' and to not be afraid to ask them for help.
Inspiration to get better.
Remember that there are colours in the world, and however much you believe that you can't handle the world, you can. We were built to be able to handle the world.
Ships can live their life in the harbour but they were built to sail the seas.
Bye.
Tuesday, 5 August 2014
Expand!
Hi, did you miss me?
I haven't posted in over six months and I am sorry. But today's post is a little different!
Some time ago I posted a blog post called, "InkyFingers VS LessInkyFingers" Link Below:
http://utterlyinvisibleteengirl.blogspot.co.uk/2013/07/inkyfingers-vs-lessinkyfingers.html
In this post, I explained why I was changing the name of my blog. In this post I will change it again.
The reason I want to change, is because I want to change what I write. I am a very opinionated person who's opinions are not restricted to politics and society. I want to write everything. From now on I hope to expand the subjects I write about to... anything!
If you want me to write about a particular subject leave me a comment and I will see what I can do.
So don't be surprised if you see a lot more posts with a bigger variety of themes from now on.
Keep being angry,
bye!
I haven't posted in over six months and I am sorry. But today's post is a little different!
Some time ago I posted a blog post called, "InkyFingers VS LessInkyFingers" Link Below:
http://utterlyinvisibleteengirl.blogspot.co.uk/2013/07/inkyfingers-vs-lessinkyfingers.html
In this post, I explained why I was changing the name of my blog. In this post I will change it again.
The reason I want to change, is because I want to change what I write. I am a very opinionated person who's opinions are not restricted to politics and society. I want to write everything. From now on I hope to expand the subjects I write about to... anything!
If you want me to write about a particular subject leave me a comment and I will see what I can do.
So don't be surprised if you see a lot more posts with a bigger variety of themes from now on.
Keep being angry,
bye!
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